Long before I studied Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), I had already embraced a whole-person approach to coaching. Whether in business, sports, or life, I saw the interconnectedness of mind, body, and emotions. It was clear to me that stress, regardless of its source, affected every part of a person, from their performance to their relationships. But when I began studying TCM, the principles I encountered didn’t just align with my perspective—they solidified it as a universal truth.
TCM taught me to understand stress in profound new ways, linking it to specific organs and emotional states. It also revealed tangible markers, like the appearance of the tongue, to diagnose imbalances caused by stress. These lessons deepened my appreciation for how everything counts in life—how every thought, action, and stressor leaves its mark on our one body and one brain.
However, life had its own lessons for me. I was in school during a pivotal moment in my family’s life—my wife and I were going through IVF to conceive our son, who is now 9 years old. Once our baby arrived, I quickly realized that as much as I loved studying Chinese medicine, the timing wasn’t right. I felt like I was watching my son grow up on Facebook while spending countless hours studying, and I knew something had to change. My priorities shifted, and I chose to step away from TCM to be present for my family.
This experience taught me an important truth: sometimes, the timing in life determines the path we take, and choosing balance in the moment is an act of wisdom. Although I still intend to return to my studies one day, the lessons I learned from TCM deeply influence how I approach coaching and the connection between stress, energy, and well-being.
This understanding became especially critical in addressing burnout and managing energy—a central focus of my work in coaching high performers to thrive in business, sports, and life.
How TCM Solidified My Whole-Person Approach to Energy Management
Even before TCM, I recognized the importance of viewing individuals holistically. Stress in one area—whether work, competition, or relationships—inevitably affects every other area. TCM provided a language and framework to articulate this truth. It showed me how the Liver stagnates under bottled-up emotions, how the Spleen struggles with overthinking, and how the Kidneys are depleted by prolonged stress.
This understanding transformed how I approach coaching:
Preventing Burnout: Like TCM practitioners, I focus on restoring balance before energy reserves are completely depleted.
Holistic Assessment: I use the eight dimensions of wellness—physical, emotional, intellectual, social, spiritual, occupational, financial, and environmental—to identify where stress is taking its toll and how deficiencies or excesses impact mental well-being.
Custom Solutions: I tailor strategies to address specific imbalances, whether it’s improving resilience (Kidney energy) or releasing emotional tension (Liver Qi).
Energy Management: I teach clients to manage their energy holistically—integrating rest, recovery, and mindfulness into their routines to sustain performance.
This approach is especially crucial for high achievers in business and sports, where burnout often comes disguised as success.
By recognizing how every part of life contributes to stress and energy balance, we can create strategies that support long-term health and peak performance.
Understanding Stress in Traditional Chinese Medicine
Stress is universal, and TCM offers a framework for understanding its impact on the body. It views stress as a disruption to the flow of Qi (energy) and the delicate balance between Yin (restorative energy) and Yang (active energy). The Five Elements theory—Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, and Water—connects each organ system to specific emotions and functions. Stress throws this system out of balance, with ripple effects across both physical and emotional health.
As I studied TCM, I saw the beauty in its holistic framework. The Liver governs the flow of Qi and is affected by frustration. The Spleen processes worry and overthinking. The Kidneys hold our reserves of energy, which deplete under chronic stress. These insights reinforced what I’d long observed in my coaching practice: stress affects the entire person. Whether it stems from work, competition, or personal struggles, the body processes stress the same way, and the impact is cumulative. Left unchecked, this accumulation leads to burnout—a state of complete energetic depletion.
Organs, Stress, and Burnout in TCM
Each organ in TCM has a dual role: governing physiological functions and housing specific emotions.
Stress creates patterns of disharmony in these systems, which often manifest as both physical and emotional symptoms. When prolonged, these imbalances drain the body’s energy reserves, setting the stage for burnout.
1. The Liver (Wood Element): The Liver is responsible for the smooth flow of Qi and emotions. Under stress, its Qi becomes stagnant, leading to:
Irritability, frustration, or anger.
Headaches, tight shoulders, and tension.
Digestive issues or irregular menstruation.
In my work, I’ve seen high-performing individuals experience this Liver stagnation when they suppress emotions or push through challenges without pause. Over time, this stagnation can escalate into fatigue and emotional exhaustion.
2. The Heart (Fire Element): The Heart governs emotional stability and clarity. When overwhelmed by stress, it manifests as:
Anxiety, restlessness, or panic.
Insomnia and racing thoughts.
Difficulty connecting emotionally with others.
Clients dealing with Heart-related imbalances often find themselves spiraling into burnout, unable to shut off the mental noise that prevents rest and recovery.
3. The Spleen (Earth Element): The Spleen processes not only food but also thoughts. Stress weakens the Spleen, resulting in:
Digestive problems like bloating or poor appetite.
Mental fog and difficulty concentrating.
Fatigue and a sense of being “weighed down.”
I’ve coached many individuals whose worry or overthinking drained their energy, leaving them vulnerable to burnout and unable to make clear decisions.
4. The Lungs (Metal Element): The Lungs house grief and sadness. Chronic stress can weaken Lung Qi, leading to:
Shallow breathing or shortness of breath.
Frequent colds or weakened immunity.
An inability to let go of emotional burdens.
Many people in burnout describe a suffocating sense of pressure, which reflects this Lung imbalance and their body’s inability to process emotional stress effectively.
5. The Kidneys (Water Element): The Kidneys store our vital energy and govern resilience. Long-term stress depletes Kidney Qi, resulting in:
Exhaustion and burnout.
Lower back pain or weakness.
Fearfulness or an inability to face challenges.
Kidney depletion is the ultimate marker of burnout in TCM. When reserves are drained, even small challenges feel insurmountable, and the body struggles to recover without intervention.
The Tongue as a Diagnostic Tool
One of the most fascinating aspects of TCM is its use of the tongue as a diagnostic tool.
The tongue reflects the state of the organs, providing visible clues to stress-related imbalances and stages of burnout.
Liver Stagnation: Red sides or cracks on the tongue indicate tension or frustration.
Spleen Deficiency: Teeth marks and a pale tongue suggest worry or mental strain.
Heart Imbalance: A red tip reveals emotional stress or insomnia.
Kidney Depletion: A dark or glossy tongue shows exhaustion from prolonged stress.
Lung Weakness: A pale or dry tongue reflects grief or difficulty releasing emotions.
During my studies, I was amazed by how accurately the tongue mirrored the internal state. This principle reinforced what I’d always believed: the body speaks, and we must learn to listen—especially when burnout is on the horizon.
The Wisdom of Balance
Studying Traditional Chinese Medicine didn’t introduce me to the whole-person approach—it affirmed and deepened my commitment to it. TCM’s insights into stress and the organs clarified why my philosophy works: because we are one body and one brain, and every stressor leaves its mark.
Burnout is the culmination of unresolved stress and energy mismanagement, but it doesn’t have to be inevitable. By understanding the connections between our emotions, physical health, and performance, we can prevent burnout and build a foundation for sustainable energy in all areas of life. This, to me, is the ultimate lesson of TCM: everything is connected, and balance is always within reach.
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